|Remember this? You were little and|
getting the nerve up for your first
dive or jump? You did it though..
didn't you? So what would you
do now if you weren't fearful?
I have been struggling with my own professional fears for over two years now. All I wanted to do when I started grad studies was change the world (nothing big....). Many people made fun of my big picture thinking and told me it couldn't be done, but I was sure that one little person with a big idea could make a difference. I wanted to open up my own business and offer judgement free and inclusive health counselling to those who never stepped foot in a fitness center. I wanted to be a weekly columnist for a newspaper (not a national one so much....a little one would do) and offer real life health stories that would make people laugh and feel good about themselves (versus bad that they are eating a donut and sitting on the couch). I'm not doing any of this. Although I love my job, I think I could do better.
Lately, I have met people with far less education and experience as myself but with much more ...what do you call it......belief in themselves?....self confidence?.....motivation?...than I have now. Because of this, I have learned one really hard lesson over this year. It isn't the degrees you have or your years of experience, it's all about attitude! For example, "Barb", a woman I met last year, had just moved to my town. She arrived with a certificate to teach Zumba (and a passion to share it). Within one year, she opened her own fitness studio (no degree, no experience, just energy and a passion for her craft). Now I know fitness centers come and go and the chances of her remaining open are very low, but she did it (and in my opinion that takes a large amount of courage). Another guy quit his day job to begin a life coaching business...he is working as a life coach today (he has yet to be certified and is doing something I wouldn't feel comfortable doing...but he is following his dream without fear).
|I believe we pass many |
doors just like this one
without opening them
for fear of what's on
the other side....I fear the
regret I will feel not opening
more of them...
I know, eventually, I will give myself a good bitch slap and crawl out of this self-created abyss of fear. I will mail off the letters, send my second book to a publisher, open up a small office space and offer health counselling to my population of choice. But things would be so much easier and move so much faster if I could just shake this fear and step out of my shell. God, I couldn't imagine what I could do with the wicked combination of education, experience AND attitude!
Does fear relate to health (in keeping with the Real Life Health theme)? You bet it does. Fear holds us back from doing what we truly want to do and be. Fear keeps us in relationships we don't want to be in and jobs we can't stand. Fear stops us from saying what we really want to say and, ultimately, fear gets in the way of achieving personal greatness. Research has demonstrated that happiness is linked to good health (and sadness, depression, stress, and anger is linked to chronic illness)...so you bet your sweet bum fear relates to health!
...and I'm one step closer to kicking my fear's sweet ass to the curb! (........once I clean the house and finish this really great novel I'm reading).