For me, my last bitch slap was a few months ago and my bitch slapper was my man friend, "B". We were taking a Sunday walk on the seawall in our town and I was going on about how this small town wasn't ready for my business ideas, it was holding me back, it was all because I lived here that I wasn't moving forward (blah blah blah blah) and then it happened....I was bitch slapped in public. "Kathi", he said, "I'm getting kinda tired of hearing you blame my town for your lack of success" (of course I'm paraphrasing for lack of a decent memory...and he may have thrown in some harsher words than that, but there you have it). He went on to challenge my "stinkin thinkin" by saying he knew of many professionals (writers, presenters, academics, researchers, and the like) who have made this town theirs and found work (albeit elsewhere). They do very well working for companies or contracting by distance...."so please do not blame the town for your...shortcomings" (this is what I heard...although I'm sure he didn't say it this way).
It was a hard thing to hear (especially from my rugged good-lookin' babe of a man friend) but it was what I needed to hear to shake me out of my own shame-spiral and make me think long and hard about my beliefs and attitudes. After that day, I made the effort to network and meet people in the community. I learned how to market better and have connected with people who are successfully doing business in a small town. I haven't complained about this since that fateful day (I have since redirected my energy towards complaining about my procrastination problem...).
|For me, health can be defined |
through change. Change is hard
but exciting. It feeds us and keeps
us passionate about life. The process
may suck at times, but the benefits
are breathtaking...but that's just me.
In closing, when it comes to change, we tend to all have our blind spots. We may not see how our own behaviour is setting us up for failure, but you can guarantee there is that one person in your life who does. If you are open and ready for an exercise in self-evaluation, this is an amazing opportunity to get to know yourself even better....and to move into a new way of living without holding yourself back.
That's all I got.