|Celebrate who you are and what you have|
now, without a life full of "shoulds" and
you, too, could be drinking wine and
linking arms at a fancy restaurant!
After not hearing from her for weeks, Kelly made another two appointments which were cancelled shortly after they were made. Again, weeks went by without hearing from her until last week when I received a call for another appointment in the beginning of the week. This time, I was stood up...and so goes the personal torment of "should'ing". There is a huge gaping hole between knowing what we "should" do and actually doing it. If the hole is big enough there will be more reasons to not show up for an appointment than there are to be there. Personally, I do this with my dental visits....I always find a reason why I need to reschedule (need to kill a spider, change a light bulb, stick my duvet in the duvet cover - that can take hours).
Unfortunately, Kelly represents so many others who have great intentions to make a change but the psychology of change just gets in the way leading to one cancellation after another. One major contributor of the "shoulds" is stress. If one is dealing with the chronic stress that comes with a job, a relationship, or a life event, I strongly suggest against embarking on a lifestyle change. Deal with the stress and all the icky things that come with it (insomnia, emotional eating, and fatigue are my personal favorites) first and then consider a lifestyle change program.
|Let your next weekend be "should-less" and celebrate|
by sitting in a really big martini glass drinking a
really good martini (dress and stilettos optional)!
That's all I got.