(For the full article click here http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-power-prime/201104/personal-growth-is-the-self-help-industry-fraud ...it's worth a quick read.)
The "self-help" movement is based upon the our desire to change. I was a huge proponent of self-help...myself when I was going through bad break ups and wanted to learn more about "how to avoid marrying a jerk" or "should I leave?" or "taking the next step 'cause the bridge will be there". My God, I have three book cases in my home office full of self-help books. You gotta a problem...I gotta book! I must have spent a year's salary on books, DVDs, and journals. It was interesting to me, however, that when I was happy, content, and drama free....I never picked up a book or wrote in my journal. It was the times of trouble I would reach for my little blankets of security.
|I still spend a small fortune on books. I just|
changed my focus. This is a great look at
change from a business perspective vs.
a health psychology perspective.
Change is multifaceted and complex. Change takes time and patience. Above all, as the author of this article suggests, "...change takes incredible commitment, time, energy, and effort. Someone might be able to show you the way, but you have to make the journey yourself." There is a self-help guru born every minute and for every one, there are thousands of people who are willing to follow. I believe we don't need the books, movies, or speakers to change we only need to clear a space on our calendars to dedicate to digging deep within ourselves and figuring out why we aren't happy and what we can do to get there.
The more I read the articles and speak to counsellors and psychologists alike, the more confident I become in the way I do business. The only problem is.....my clients would rather read the book and try the latest diet than spend time within themselves and do the soul searching. However, those that do (although they may struggle, cry, and hate me at times....) they manage to come out the other end clearer, committed, and happy they did the work.
So the next time you are tempted to buy that book (unless it is mine...that's okay...kidding...sort of) or pay for that promising (beach body) fitness program take a moment to really ask yourself if you are truly ready, if you know what you really want and why, and what will you do to get there. If you can't answer those questions or you aren't really ready to give it 100% of yourself walk away and come back when you are. Your pocket book, time, family, and self-esteem will thank you for it.
Seriously, you know what to do...it's doing it that's the problem.